2018: Welcome To The Red Pill
If you’re here from the About Page, welcome and thanks for reading on.
If not, here is the intro:
If you’ve read this far, then I know that I want you to stick around!
Life is a funny thing, and as I considered the purpose of this site, I was a little confused about what direction I wanted to take it in.
Initially I had wanted to help dads get back into shape after slacking when kids came along.
And I still do.
But I realized there was an even greater need out there…
And that’s Red Pill knowledge for men.
The Red Pill is many things, but first and foremost, it’s a praxeology with which to understand interactions between the two sexes.
To that end, I want to work more Red Pill personal development into the blog (and being strong and in shape is a crucial part, but there’s so much more).
Does Any Of This Sound Familiar?
Have you gotten out of shape since you had kids?
Maybe severely out of shape?
Are you experiencing more stress?
Has that seeped into other aspects of your appearance, like the way you dress?
Weird things happen to some of us when we have kids.
We have less free time, need more money, and tend to be less selective about the foods we eat.
Then as we get bigger and more depressed about our appearance, we care less about our appearance and the clothes we wear.
People think this doesn’t happen to men, but that’s just ridiculous.
You notice that you’re not having as much sex with your wife as before.
When the kids were babies it made sense.
She was still recovering and has to tend to helpless babies.
But then they were 3 months old, 4 months old, 6 months old, 12 months old…
And things haven’t gotten any better.
She always has excuses, and you’re sick of being rejected by your own wife, so you slowly stop initiating.
Then you wake up and realize your sex life is all but non-existent.
So What To Do
Here it’s important to understand the alternative to the Red Pill, and that’s the Blue Pill.
Unless you had a Red Pill aware man in your life as you were growing up, it’s a safe bet to assume that you’ve been conditioned to Blue Pill ways your whole life.
The Blue Pill is a feminine primary way of looking at everything.
It could be considered a product of third wave feminism, and the erosion of gender roles in our culture.
However exactly you want to think of it, it is the most pervasive influence in our culture at large.
The fact that it’s politically incorrect to observe that men and women are different.
The Disney princess model of “true love”.
The relationship advice you’ve undoubtedly been given to revive your sex life:
“Go to marriage counseling”
“Go on date nights”
“Help out more around the house”
“Buy her flowers/jewelry/gifts/etc”
All things that, if we’re honest, we’ll admit don’t work.
Enter the Red Pill
And this is where the Red Pill comes in.
As I mentioned above, this is a praxeology for understanding male/female relationships.
In case you didn’t already hit the link above, a praxeology is the science of human action.
Put in layman’s terms:
Pay attention to what people DO, not what they SAY.
This is true for everyone, and doubly true for women.
But we’ll get there, and many other writers and bloggers have done a masterful job of delving into this.
How Does This Relate To Fitness?
This was a long, rambling blog post to introduce the concept of the Red Pill, in the event that it is new to you.
But I realized that while fitness is a big part of your Red Pill transformation, there are many more elements too.
It’s about improving yourself to improve your relationship.
But you need to do it FOR YOURSELF.
You can’t do it for your wife.
Think about it this way, if you improve yourself and she responds positively, then great!
But if she still withholds sex and is generally unpleasant to be around, then you’ve put yourself in a much better place to move on (which I hope is not the outcome).
So What Else Is Involved?
I want to recommend books, podcasts, YouTube channels and more.
I want to talk about clothes, fragrances and other general appearance stuff.
I want to talk about frame and mindset.
Fitness/strength is just one part of the picture, though I think it is the foundational piece.
I want to help develop the whole man, not just the physical part.
I’m not perfect at this either.
In some cases, I’m learning with you.
Many of these ideas are coming from other manosphere writers, because they’ve put it more eloquently than I could.
However, I think it’s important that this knowledge get out through as many channels as possible.
Recommendations are my personal opinion on things that are good.
You may agree or not.
Once you get into some of this material you’ll see that it is self-evident.
It will HARD to put into practice.
You’re pushing against a lifetime of conditioning.
You’ll be basically giving society-at-large (to possibly include your family, friends, employer, religious institution and more) the finger.
People won’t understand, and they’ll think you’re crazy.
You’ll think it won’t work because initial reactions won’t be favorable.
But it’s worth it.
Pay attention to what people do, not what they say.
If you’ve reached the point where you’re ready to take the Red Pill (maybe out of desperation, or because you’ve all but given up), you will notice the effects of the Blue Pill everywhere.
You’ll see things in other people’s relationships that you will think you can help fix.
Men making common mistakes.
You’ll be tempted to dispense some Red Pill knowledge.
And you’ll see/hear that advice from many more people.
This is literally counter-cultural stuff.
Other men, like the dreaded white knights, will attack you and sell you out.
People have to come to this on their own.
Sadly it’s often when everything has fallen apart and they have no where else to turn.
But unless you’ve gotten some signal that a person is ready, don’t try to get them to take the Red Pill.
So that’s what’s going on when you see discussion of stuff that’s not related to fitness, training, Starting Strength, or whatever.
We’re improving the whole dad in order to put him in a better place in life.
Stay tuned, this should be fun!